Baby Development Concerns
Are you a parent to a baby or a toddler? You may be worried about certain aspects of their developments. This is completely normal. Baby development concerns are pretty much inevitable. Here’s why I stopped stressing out about it.
All Babies Develop At Different Rates
There are a few key aspects you will look out for when you have a baby or toddler. These are the things everyone asks about which makes it seem a lot worse if your child hasn’t hit those milestones yet. “Are they walking yet?” and “Are they talking yet?” are the big two. These are things that we push for when raising a child so we can tick them off the list and brag to other parents about it. In reality, there is so much more to consider. Are they eating well? Do they sleep through the night? Do they show other signs of understanding things?
Walking and talking are obviously important but these other milestones are huge wins too.
A few months ago, we were at a local playground. There was a child there around the same age as my son – one week younger, to be exact. At the time, our boy was saying a few words fairly clearly but we wanted to encourage him to progress with his speech. This other child seemed a lot more advanced than ours and could say a lot more words. We got home and I found myself in a bit of a depressive slump.
What’s wrong? Why isn’t he speaking like that? Have I failed as a Dad? The answer is clear. Of course I haven’t. After a day or so of moping and Googling to see where I went wrong I took a step back and started thinking about all the amazing things he can do now.
He knows, and repeats, the noises animals make when you point to a picture, hold up a toy, or even just say the name of the animal. Can this other kid do that? Maybe, I’ll never know but there must be things he can do that other children can’t at this age.
How To Stop Having Baby Development Concerns
Even things like sleeping thought the night is a milestone that some children don’t reach until they turn 2 or so. Our son has been doing that since he was 3 months old. We know he wakes up in the night as we see him on the baby monitor but he rolls around for a bit, sometimes talks to himself (usually bla bla’s and ga ga’s) and then happily goes back to sleep.
This may not seem like much but it shows he can entertain himself which is really important and a key stage of development.
What I am trying to say is this. Your child will be behind others on certain things but it doesn’t matter. Some children talk late and grow up to be doctors and scientists. Some walk late but grow up to be Olympic athletes.
Unless there are genuine reasons for concern and they are developing extremely later with certain things, just enjoy parenthood and enjoy watching them grow because, trust me, time passes by in the blink of an eye.
Remember the NHS website is full of useful advice and help for parenthood too.
Until next time,